[finally conviced her]

I couldn't find this info anywhere so I had to ask. And although I look dumb for asking I'm really glad I didn't send the wrong part for reflash. The ECM or ECU is located directly above the brake pedal, behind the steering shaft and the top of it is about 1" from what would be called the fire wall in a regular vehicle.

 

[mrrpm]

Yep, that's it. Black box, two plugs going in.